Buy Local

Warning, time to vent.  I’m usually pretty easy to get along with, but when that last nerve is struck I can become my father’s child pretty quick.  I work in economic development and try really hard to buy local even though the amazing amazon is my best friend for things I can’t readily access in my small,  rural community.

When I built the house in 2011, my contractor and I used our local home building supply store for practically everything, and I continued to use them as a “go to” even after a totally offensive experience when I returned a box of tapcon screws to replace with a slightly longer length and the proprietor of the store dumped the box of 100 out and counted them in front of me to be sure I hadn’t snagged one for a souvenir. For the record, they were all there.  Maybe next time I should have my bag of rock salt weighed before my purchase?  (I’ve always felt like those that accuse are more than likely guilty of the accusation themselves.)

Still, I continued to support this local business, even though I find myself driving past two of the big box stores at least twice a month.  Until last week.  In preparation for our work weekend, I called up and ordered three pieces of door trim and 35 feet of baseboard trim, unfinished.  Oh, and three sections of 4″ PVC pipe for a different project.  There was some debate about my ability to pick this order up in my dad’s truck because of the length of the baseboard, to which the salesperson, who worked with me on the house project, said, “We’ll just drop it off for you”.  (If I walk to the end of my driveway, I can see the back of their building.)

First, below is a picture of what they dropped off for me.

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When I think about my experience in the context of the rules I try to live by:

Rule number 1 – treat others as you would have them treat you, and

Rule number 2 – work smart

I’m certain that the folks that run the building supply store wouldn’t have been happy with the product had I sold it to them. And, trying to pass off inferior product to a loyal customer just isn’t working smart in my book.

Second, I totally understand the price of fuel today and the necessity for a delivery charge.  However, I don’t understand a $13 delivery charge on a $94 order that is going less than 1 mile round trip, that I really wanted to pick up anyway.  I also think that had I picked my order up they wouldn’t have gotten away with giving me the worst couple pieces of door trim they could find.  So, the next day, my father, in his truck, exchanged all three pieces of door trim and the shorter piece of baseboard.  I was able to keep the two 16 foot pieces of baseboard and the PVC pipe.  When I pay the billing, I will be charging a reasonable $6.50 for my Dad’s fuel to make the exchange.  Stay tuned…

In the end,

Rule number 11 – Know when to try harder and when to walk away

will apply to my business relationship with this store.  This isn’t what Rule number 11 was written for, but I’m extending it to this situation anyway – – because I can!

Good-bye local store – Hello Lowes and Home Depot.

 

 

 

Favorite Song Friday

Every once in a while, a new song kind of sounds like an old favorite from the very first time I hear it.  I’ve had a few of those this summer – Kelsea Ballerini’s “Love Me Like You Mean It” and Frankie Ballard’s “Sunshine and Whiskey” have been at the top of my favorites list.

Well, it’s happened again.  My favorite song this Friday is B.Y.H.B. by Uncle Ezra Ray.  Uncle Ezra Ray is being called a ’90’s “super” group and here they are making my Favorite Song Friday in July 2015.  Uncle Ezra Ray features Uncle Kracker, Better than Ezra’s Kevin Griffin, and Sugar Ray’s Mark McGrath. Catchy, huh!

Warning…. it appears from #byhb and #highwayfind that people either love or hate this song.  I like my music to feel good.  It’s music and it’s Friday, don’t overthink it people.  This tune makes me move while confined to the driver’s seat in my car.

It’s also been said that this song could pass as a Florida Georgia Line tune, but I’d take that as a serious compliment if I was Uncle Ezra Ray.

Bottom line, this is a ’90’s kind of song making waves summer 2015, and how can I not love a song that – tweets about a party and has some Love Shack bumping on an 8 track?

After all, they’re just having a ball drinking wine straight out the box.  Happy Friday everyone!

 

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My baby – on a sunny July band day!

(with my wine flavored cigar)

Yep… # B.Y.H.B.

Today…….I blog

I made the decision to begin a blog to document an amazing time in my life.  This blog is a way for me to:  try writing, cross a couple items off my bucket list, and most importantly, journalize the experiences that I want to remember (and some I’d probably like to forget).

When the kids were little, it seemed like life was just a race through every day to be sure they had everything they needed and to do work that I could be proud of. It was a constant juggling act and survival was the daily goal. I can’t undo the chaos of those years, and wouldn’t even if I could. But now, although my life seems to have the same hectic pace, I am beginning to find myself with more choices.

My boys are still my priority, and I consider myself a single mom, even though they are 25 and 17.

I recently read a blog post by Lauren Greutman at www.iamthatlady.com.  It was called “Why I suck at being a mom” (June 17, 2015), and it really resonated with me.

I have challenged myself to be the best me I can be.  I have vowed to take time to take care of me – learning Gluten Free meal planning that works for our family and making time to be fit, all the while being the best mom, daughter, friend and girlfriend I can be.

Lauren’s post really hit home when she said “I feel like I suck as a mom most days, because I take on too much….”  Lauren admits that she is a doer and a fixer (as am I).  When we try to be great-at-everything moms and great-at-our-jobs moms, we end up feeling like we are doing a bad job at both.  Our houses are typically a mess.  Many nights dinner is not home-cooked, there isn’t as much mom time as we’d like, the kids probably watch too much tv or play too many video games, and we suck!  We aren’t as kind as we’d like to be to our family and friends, and we don’t pray as often as we should. 

The reality of our worlds is that “We cannot be or do everything we’d like to.”  Rule number 16 relates to this quest for perfection – “Know how much you can accomplish in an hour, a day, and a week.”

My boyfriend explains to me that I am the glue.  The glue that holds our little piece of the world together.  Being the glue also brings a lot of pressure, and that pressure to hold everything and everyone together can make you ultimately feel like you suck! (because it isn’t totally possible and a lot is typically outside of our control)  My boyfriend is amazing because he understands this, reminds me of this, loves me unconditionally for who I am, and is there to help me give myself permission to not be perfect.

Lauren continues to list some things that she gives herself permission to “not be perfect in”, but right now I can be satisfied with just the realization.

As a mom, don’t you feel like other moms have it all together?  On her post, Lauren points out that  the struggle to “have it all together” is now more prevalent than in any other generation, because of the Internet and Pinterest.

While I am certainly not “Pinterest Perfect”, I can’t suck because I am the glue.